I didn't live in the same city, so I basically moved into her house so I could be at the hospital(s) and nursing home everyday. I had to quit my job and didn't see my family for weeks at a time.
This right here is what scares the shit out of me. There's no way I could quit my job (I'd have no way to pay for her care) and I can't even stay overnight in my mother's house, much less live there. It's a double wide trailer and reeks so bad of cigarettes and dog that it makes me sick to even visit. I'll probably have to pay for someone to stay with her or move her into an assisted care facility where she'll hate me until the day she dies.
When it comes to her smoking, I can't say anything that she will hear. She immediately gets pissy and defensive so it's pointless to argue with her. What gets me the most is that my aunt, her sister, has a heart condition that caused her to have a heart transplant five years ago. So here you have a woman who never smoked a day in her life and has a congenital heart defect that almost killed her vs. my mother who has smoked for all those years and doesn't have the same heart defect. She was gifted with a healthy heart and chooses to abuse the hell out of it.
Sorry to hear what you went through with your mom. Makes me wonder if your dad's cancer wasn't related to second hand smoke.
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Date: 2010-11-08 05:21 am (UTC)This right here is what scares the shit out of me. There's no way I could quit my job (I'd have no way to pay for her care) and I can't even stay overnight in my mother's house, much less live there. It's a double wide trailer and reeks so bad of cigarettes and dog that it makes me sick to even visit. I'll probably have to pay for someone to stay with her or move her into an assisted care facility where she'll hate me until the day she dies.
When it comes to her smoking, I can't say anything that she will hear. She immediately gets pissy and defensive so it's pointless to argue with her. What gets me the most is that my aunt, her sister, has a heart condition that caused her to have a heart transplant five years ago. So here you have a woman who never smoked a day in her life and has a congenital heart defect that almost killed her vs. my mother who has smoked for all those years and doesn't have the same heart defect. She was gifted with a healthy heart and chooses to abuse the hell out of it.
Sorry to hear what you went through with your mom. Makes me wonder if your dad's cancer wasn't related to second hand smoke.