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bunchofgrapes) wrote2007-10-14 02:32 pm
bunchofgrapes) wrote2007-10-14 02:32 pm
Fics, Deep Voices, and Rants, oh my!
So "Cancun" won a fanfic award. Yeah, that definitely made my day! My thanks to everyone who read it and anyone who voted. I saw the list of nominations; I know it was in excellent company.
So Nightline has this bit about why women (me, for example) have a preference for men with deep voices. Can I just say duh? Why do they think I love Richard Basehart (he was "The Voice" before James Earl Jones was "The Voice") or Paul Guilfoyle? Or my last boyfriend, Alan. He was a doof but he had an amazing voice that immediately caught my attention. For the record, it was PG's voice that caught my attention and made me want to find its owner. The love just took off from there. Nightline report says men with lower voices have greater reproductive success. I'll buy that. Both PG and RB fathered kids when they were in their late 40’s/early 50’s. So did James Earl Jones for that matter. Oh, and I have a thing for hairy chests as well. I know TMI...
And can I just say that I’m so freakin’ sick of people saying every older guy/ younger woman relationship is because she’s got daddy issues? I seriously want to bitchslap these people, especially when they say "it's classic textbook psychology". My last boyfriend, Alan, was 19 years older than me. I have a father, also 19 years older than me. I’m a mature adult who isn’t out to find another daddy nor am I after older guy's money. I'm doing just fine on my own, thanks.
I did not pursue Alan because I needed a daddy or had daddy issues. If anything, I was the parent in the relationship. Some of us who date/marry older men just happen to like older men. I always have (my first crush was Rex Harrison--when I was 5 years old). I like that they have gray hair and deep voices and weathered (not leathered) faces. I like that they have a sense of maturity about them (well, some do) that I don’t find in younger men. I like older men but I’ll tell you, when I first fell for Alan, I had no idea how old he was. I knew he was older than me and I was actually a little disappointed when I found out how much older but I really liked him so that didn't matter. And that's the key. Usually, we are attracted to who we are attracted to. We look first and get the details later. There was another guy after Alan and he is 18 years older than me. I liked him the moment I met him (um, he's another one with an incredible, deep voice) and he liked me and though nothing ever really came about (there's a distance issue), we became great friends. But no way would I say "wow, you're 18 years older than me? K, thanks, have a nice life". If I like him, I like him. And just for the record, the only time he drives me crazy and ticks me off? When he starts going all paternal on me.
So, stupid people on various fandom boards, I don't care what your psychology books tell you or what your best friend's aunt's cousin's sister says. Each person is different. Don't generalize and tell me that every older guy/younger girl relationship is because we all have daddy issues.
So Nightline has this bit about why women (me, for example) have a preference for men with deep voices. Can I just say duh? Why do they think I love Richard Basehart (he was "The Voice" before James Earl Jones was "The Voice") or Paul Guilfoyle? Or my last boyfriend, Alan. He was a doof but he had an amazing voice that immediately caught my attention. For the record, it was PG's voice that caught my attention and made me want to find its owner. The love just took off from there. Nightline report says men with lower voices have greater reproductive success. I'll buy that. Both PG and RB fathered kids when they were in their late 40’s/early 50’s. So did James Earl Jones for that matter. Oh, and I have a thing for hairy chests as well. I know TMI...
And can I just say that I’m so freakin’ sick of people saying every older guy/ younger woman relationship is because she’s got daddy issues? I seriously want to bitchslap these people, especially when they say "it's classic textbook psychology". My last boyfriend, Alan, was 19 years older than me. I have a father, also 19 years older than me. I’m a mature adult who isn’t out to find another daddy nor am I after older guy's money. I'm doing just fine on my own, thanks.
I did not pursue Alan because I needed a daddy or had daddy issues. If anything, I was the parent in the relationship. Some of us who date/marry older men just happen to like older men. I always have (my first crush was Rex Harrison--when I was 5 years old). I like that they have gray hair and deep voices and weathered (not leathered) faces. I like that they have a sense of maturity about them (well, some do) that I don’t find in younger men. I like older men but I’ll tell you, when I first fell for Alan, I had no idea how old he was. I knew he was older than me and I was actually a little disappointed when I found out how much older but I really liked him so that didn't matter. And that's the key. Usually, we are attracted to who we are attracted to. We look first and get the details later. There was another guy after Alan and he is 18 years older than me. I liked him the moment I met him (um, he's another one with an incredible, deep voice) and he liked me and though nothing ever really came about (there's a distance issue), we became great friends. But no way would I say "wow, you're 18 years older than me? K, thanks, have a nice life". If I like him, I like him. And just for the record, the only time he drives me crazy and ticks me off? When he starts going all paternal on me.
So, stupid people on various fandom boards, I don't care what your psychology books tell you or what your best friend's aunt's cousin's sister says. Each person is different. Don't generalize and tell me that every older guy/younger girl relationship is because we all have daddy issues.